We rounded up the best fleshlight and other stroking sex toys because there are a lot of unfair social pressures we put on all genders when it comes to sexual pleasure. Sex toys have completely revolutionized the way many people with vulvas and clitorises experience pleasure, and vibrators and the like have increasingly become a normal staple in the bedroom.
But there’s no reason to stop there because there are tons of male-focused sex toys specifically designed to give people with penises a chance to explore down there. You slip it inside and move it up and down—it’s like a high-tech handy.
You may be thinking that these toys are seedy or strange. You may remember cringing the first time you heard the term “Fleshlight.” But, like all of the best sex toys for men, male masturbators (or masturbation sleeves) simply give guys a chance to experiment with their pleasure and to try new kinds of stimulation, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Also: Using one of these things can help with partnered sex since you’re not getting into the habit of needing a gorilla grip to climax.
While the Fleshlight is the most popular toy out there, there are plenty of other options available on the market—here’s a rundown.
The Best Fleshlight
Fleshlight Pink Lady
Adam & Eve
There are many newer models are on the market, but “Fleshlight” has become the usual way to refer to these toys for a reason. The company’s original model features a super soft skin-like feel, along with human-like textures within. It’s the closest thing to a the real deal when you’re practicing solo.
The Most Luxurious Stroker
Lelo F1s V2 Male Vibrator
More fun with solo sex? There’s an app for that. Lelo’s new F1S V2 is the Maybach of masturbation toys: it’s incredibly powerful, extra soft and stretchy on the inside, and has ten sensors allowing for feedback, and the the whole experience is totally customizable through the Lelo app on your phone.
Not sold on the idea of a stroker yet? Try a disposable one and see what you think! Tenga Eggs are squishy handheld strokers with highly stimulating textures inside. They can be used 3-4 times if you wash and dry them properly between uses, so you can get a feel for the sensations offered by strokers before you decide whether to buy a longer-lasting toy.
Fleshlight Go Torque
If you and your partner are into voyeurism and exhibitionism, or if you’re long-distance and like to have video sex, this toy is a fantastic pick. The sleeve and casing are both see-through, so your sweetie will get the view of a lifetime while you’re using it. This one is also more petite than your standard Fleshlight – perfect for throwing in a suitcase or stashing in an overstuffed nightstand drawer.
“Pressure-wave technology” is often found in toys marketed at women these days; it stimulates the clitoris “touchlessly” using rhythmic air waves. Now this technology is available in a toy for penises too! The Arcwave works its magic on your sensitive frenulum, for truly mind-blowing orgasms.
Lovense Max 2
This stroker combines vibration with rhythmic suction, creating intense sensations whether you’re stroking it up and down or just holding it still. It also connects to Lovense’s Bluetooth app, so you can control the toy with your smartphone, or let a partner take the wheel for some long-distance fun.
Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit
It might seem counterintuitive that a toy made to provide intense pleasure could also help you last longer, but this product is designed to do exactly that. The ribbed internal texture is so super-stimulating that once you learn to hold off for longer with this toy, it’ll be much easier to do the same with a partner. But even if that’s not your goal, this is still a high-quality stroker that feels great.
Tenga Flip Zero
Fleshlight’s Quickshot strokers are less than half the size of their regular ones, making them way more affordable and travel-friendly. Being open-ended on both sides, this toy can be combined with other forms of stimulation–your partner can give you oral sex while using the stroker on you, for example. It’s also much easier to clean than a standard Fleshlight–always a plus!
Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage
Squeezable “pressure pads” on the side of this toy allow you to set your own desired level of vacuum suction. The inside of the toy is highly textured for all-over pleasure, but still easy to clean: just flip the toy open lengthwise to rinse it out when you’re done. However, if you’re on the larger side of the penis-size spectrum, you might wanna skip this one–it’s a bit snug.